Letting Go - Where To BeginThe first step of letting go is to take inventory of your life. Here are some areas of our lives that may be experiencing burden:
- Things - As Marie Kondo says, "The space in which we live should be for the person we are becoming now, not for the person we were in the past." Look around you. What is serving you? What isn't? Make space for what matters.
- Emotions - If you are holding on to anger, resentment, or heartbreaks, let them go. Forgive those who have hurt you. Forgive yourself for the mistakes you've made. Emotions become stored in our bodies leading to energy blockage and disease. As Buddha says, “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”
- Relationships - Consider your relationships. Are the people in your life strengthening you, lifting you up, and helping you grow? Or is it time to let go?
- Thoughts - Reflect on those thoughts and habits which lift you up and those thoughts and habits that bring you down. What can you change today?
5 Rituals for Letting GoThere are many spiritual practices that are useful for the concept of letting go. Some of these may resonate with you, while others may not. We all heal differently, so please take what works for you and leave behind the rest.
Letting Go Yoga PosesLetting go yoga poses can take a variety of forms. The important thing is that you begin your practice with the intention for letting go. As you move through your flow, you may feel release, acceptance, or surrender. You may also feel emotional. Whatever your experience is, allow yourself to lean in and breathe into the release. Heart openers are helpful for releasing built-up tension in your shoulders and neck, and stretching your spine, back and shoulders. In addition, when our posture is open, our brain associates that space with safety. These letting go yoga poses also allow us to bring more oxygen into the lungs which helps create mental clarity. Here are chest-opening postures that may help with letting go and release: Tree Pose With “V-Shaped” Arms, Fish Pose, Bridge Pose, Dancer Pose, Cow Pose, and Sphinx Pose. Hip-opening poses, like pigeon pose, can also be very therapeutic. That's because the hips are known to store muscular and emotional tension. As you open and release our hips, you may find that buried emotions bubble to the surface. Lastly, Savasana is a beautiful pose for release. Savasana is often practiced at the close of a yoga flow because it allows us an opportunity to rest and relish in the post-workout benefits. It's also a great chance to fully surrender and let go of any tension that no longer serves you.
Take Ujjayi BreathsUjjayi pranayama, also known as “ocean breath”, is an effective way to calm your nerves and become present. If you’re feeling worried, or experiencing fast-paced thinking, use this breathwork. The convenience of this breath is excellent because you can do it seated in silence, while standing or walking. Directions: Begin by slowly inhaling through the nostrils. On the exhale, keep the mouth closed, bring the tongue to the back of the top teeth, and let the breath warm the throat. After repeating this five times, you should start to notice your energy and muscles relaxing. Focus on exhaling any negative energy you might be experiencing. Due to the heating effect of this breath, it is especially nourishing during the colder weather of Vata season.
Chant for ReleaseChanting “Aum”, commonly spelled as, “Om”, is also a method to relax the mind and prepare us for release. Directions: Take an inhalation through the nostrils, open the mouth wide, and chant at least three times to feel the positive effects. Finish with ‘lion’s breath” by inhaling through the nostrils, and releasing a long sigh through the mouth to clear any remaining tension in the body. You may also want to repeat affirmations such as “I release that which no longer serves me” to encourage your commitment to letting go.
Visualize What You Truly WantSometimes visualization practice can be helpful in the manifestation of our desires. To help with letting go, think of yourself as an autumn tree and the leaves as the relationships, thoughts, and emotions you’d like to let go of. Take a moment to notice each leaf - without judgement - and then allow each leaf to fall one by one. Watch as the leaf blows away in the wind to be absorbed by the earth. Notice how you feel after each leaf falls. Are you lighter? More centered? Stronger? You may also want to try visualizing a detailed image of your hopes and dreams. What we continuously focus on is what gradually appears in our reality. As we slowly manifest what we want, letting go of what no longer serves us becomes easier because it doesn’t align with our current goals.
Practice Meditation While Using CrystalsCrystals can be used in various ways during meditation. You can hold a single crystal in your hand, wear it as jewelry, place one large crystal in the area you meditate, or even create a grid with crystals that work together synergistically to raise your vibration. However you decide to work with crystals is your choice, but there are specific crystals that are geared towards aiding in the process of letting go. These are some of the best:
- Blue lace agate is known to help overcome bitterness and negativity. Use this crystal if you need to uplift your mood and neutralize trauma. Changing your perspective is important when trying to let go.
- Smokey quartz is a very cleansing stone and absorbs negativity. This is helpful to relieve stress, resentment, and anger that may be built up in your system.
- Lastly, rhodonite is associated with compassion. Work with rhodonite when you are looking to forgive others and cultivate acceptance. While forgiveness is a process that involves other people, it ultimately is healing for the forgiver to release any grudge or toxic emotions. If you’d like to explore more crystals to help with letting go, here are an additional, five crystals and their descriptions.